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Hate Setting Goals? One Badass Reason To Love It!

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Happy New Year! We love/hate goal setting, there is ONE Badass reason to embrace them!  Here we go again with that damn goal setting and resolutions. There is only ONE reason to set goals and make resolutions. How you do one thing, is how you do everything. We talk about goals and resolutions this time of year, our hopes are high, and our dreams are grand, so what happens?

Over 80%  of us will have fallen off the wagon within the first 60 days, frankly, because most have never set goals, or taken the steps to achieve them, so most don’t experience the success of attaining a goal and the feelings that go with it!

So let’s take small steps, pat ourselves on the back, get the feelings of pride and success, then move on to our goals, shall we?

1. S.M.A.shutterstock_smart goalR.T. Goals. ALWAYS, always write them down. This is cliché, but it’s true, “A goal not written down is just a wish.” Worse yet, we can trick our minds into not really being committed to the goal. Writing it down is a commitment to yourself. Write down your top five goals in each category: Love, family, health, wealth and spirituality. Write down your REALISTIC timeline to reach each goal. Set S.M.A.R.T goals. The idea of any goal is reaching them!

2. What’s Your Why? Why are these your goals? What are your beliefs? Who are you and who do you want to become? How will these goals support you and your belief in yourself, your life and what matters most? Do you want to lose weight? Why? What will it mean? How will you feel? How does it enforce your beliefs in yourself? More money? Why? What will it do? How will you spend it? How will you feel when you have done the things you need to do to reach your financial goal?

3. Break BIG Goals Down into “Slight Edge” decisions you can make each day to take steps forward towards your goals. Each decision you make is a decision to move towards a goal, or away from a goal….that’s it… have a donut, move away from a weight loss goal. Follow up with customers, get closer to your business goal… you get it.

4. Goals Need Accountability! Find a mentor, coach or workout partner. I used coaches to win a state golf championship and a national racquetball championship… long before the victories. I set the goal of winning. I had a list of action steps to take each day, such as work out, practice, eat right, and have a coach or workout partner who would push me and hold me accountable. Answering to yourself AND someone else helps remind you of the goal and why you set it!

5. Visualize shutterstock_winner is a dreamerYour Goals! This is the MOST important aspect of any goal. If you can’t see it, feel it, trust it, it just won’t happen. I mean, picture yourself reaching a goal. What are you wearing, how do you feel about yourself? How about your friends and family, how does it feel to set a great example for them? How proud are you of you?

6. Let go. This may seem counter-intuitive, so here’s what I mean. Let go of the outcome. You have set your goal, taken the action steps, have support, you are making a decision that takes you TOWARDS  the goal, now let go. Let go of your ego, let go of the fear and let go of the doubt. You are ready. You know you have prepared, you can see it, feel it, and trust it, now just let go. I was playing in a state match play golf tournament, which means it’s a hole by hole competition. I was 55 years young playing against college golfers. I knew I was prepared. I was the best I could be at the moment, and I played, enjoyed the process and left my ego in the hotel room. I played against young, great golfers who were so attached to the outcome and their egos that they forgot about their preparation, skills and only cared about how bad it would look to lose to a 55-year-old. Guess who won? Yep, me. My mind was not full of a million thoughts. My ego and identity were not invested in the outcome; I let go.

*** THE NUMBER ONE REASON TO SET GOALS AND STRIVE TOWARDS THEM?

shutterstock_if you dont believe who willIt’s how the journey helps you feel about you. When you keep promises to yourself. When you make those Slight Edge decisions to attain your goals. When you lay your head on the pillow at night. The only way WE build confidence, self-esteem and belief  is to do what we say we are going to do. Attaining the goal is the icing on the cake, it is who you become along the way that is the greatest reward.

PS. If you make a “bad” choice, away from a goal, dust yourself off and start again. Like I said, in the end, it’s how you feel about yourself. Starting over is good, it builds confidence, quitting does not.

PPS. It is ok to “cancel” a goal that no longer serves you or no longer has importance. Just be honest with yourself and why you are canceling it. Or, reset it, make it reasonable and attainable, then strive forward.

 

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18 Comments

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    krista kelly
    January 6, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    This post has great actionable steps for Goal Setting and Goal Realizing! Thank you for the Badass Information!

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    Michelle Garcia
    January 6, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    Great advice. Thank you!

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    Cathy Jennings
    January 6, 2016 at 7:15 pm

    Great advice for setting ourselves up for success in 2016!

    I know that when I set goals and reach them, it creates momentum — and spills over into other areas of my life. My running/racing always did that for me when I was younger — which is why I’m getting back into it this year.

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    marie leslie
    January 6, 2016 at 11:26 pm

    I love goal setting. This was a great reminder post about getting in there and getting it done–and about enjoying the process. Thanks!

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    Carol Rundle
    January 7, 2016 at 8:39 am

    Great stuff, Sheryl. I’ve been learning about just enjoying the process and not being attached to the outcome. I’ve even started saying that to prospects; it really diffuses the tension.

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    Brenda Niemeyer
    January 7, 2016 at 11:45 pm

    Great info! I love your last part – if you make a bad choice, dust yourself off and try again. We all find ourselves there at one point or another. The key is to keep moving forward and learn from mistakes.

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    Katarina Andersson
    January 9, 2016 at 11:55 pm

    Thanks for a nice article. 🙂

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      Sheryl Scott
      January 9, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      Your welcome! Thank you for taking time to read it?

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    Kristen Wilson
    January 9, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    You know the funny part… as organized and anal as I am… I really don’t create too many goals or such for my biz.. I say I do.. and I do, kinda but I never write them down.. which is really what solidifies it. But I agree that we don’t set annual goals on the first but do it on a regular basis.

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    Vicky
    January 11, 2016 at 2:27 am

    Great advice! Agree, its important to take small steps and reward yourself. Thanks for sharing.

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    Jackie Harder
    January 11, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    I’m a big believer in setting SMART goals, and I like your advice to visualize (and use all the rest of your senses, too!) to see what you and your life will look like when you achieve your goals. Great post!

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    Steph Nissen
    January 20, 2016 at 6:37 pm

    Tip #4 is great – having someone keep you accountable is critical. I share my goals with my mastermind group and one of my local networking groups starts off each month sharing a goal for the month and following up on how we did with last month’s goal. It’s a huge motivator when you have to share if you passed or failed in front a group of people!

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    Kristen Wilson
    January 21, 2016 at 11:11 pm

    You know the sad/weird thing… I don’t set goals because I don’t know where or what I want to achieve for my biz. crazy huh? I mean, last year I grew by 40% and that was great and I make decent money so not losing out.. but wow, could I handle another 40% – unlikely.. so just a matter of what I can do next.

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      Sheryl Scott
      January 22, 2016 at 12:00 am

      And look what you’ve done without them…just imagine….

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    Sharon MacLean
    January 25, 2016 at 3:54 am

    It’s always rewarding, too, at the end of the year to see if we’ve met them…fallen short and adusted. Good, good.

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    Wil Cross
    March 2, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    The following statement from this blog is challenging me “5. Visualize Your Goals! This is the MOST important aspect of any goal. If you can’t see it, feel it, trust it, it just won’t happen.”

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    mindy
    March 31, 2016 at 12:28 am

    I’ve just recently started setting measurable goals – I can’t wait to see how things look this time next year! Great article!

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